tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6247419696486725071.post3921555338985966003..comments2024-02-04T19:16:14.979-08:00Comments on Illusion of Competence: About StimmingZoehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01262366138710367196noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6247419696486725071.post-13674311683841450482013-07-05T02:58:15.845-07:002013-07-05T02:58:15.845-07:00Hi, I've just discovered the word "stimmi...Hi, I've just discovered the word "stimming" and I'm wondering about its relevance / importance to kids with ADD / ADHD? Could you give me any guidance?Gweipohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09377349664812948121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6247419696486725071.post-24619059893218347492011-04-18T13:15:39.696-07:002011-04-18T13:15:39.696-07:00Thanks! I'm going to talk to him about this.Thanks! I'm going to talk to him about this.Maryannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03073949107186468147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6247419696486725071.post-34349908355847997362011-04-17T07:50:41.085-07:002011-04-17T07:50:41.085-07:00Hi Maryann! No, you're not driving me nuts, an...Hi Maryann! No, you're not driving me nuts, and I'm happy to offer advice. Will you see it if I comment here as opposed to going back to your blog? Let's see.<br /><br />Since I wrote this, I've been trying to figure out a different model for dealing with stimming in autistic kids. Ideally, the solution is to change society so that all kinds of movement are acceptable, but we're obviously not there yet. In the meantime, I wonder whether the best thing to do is just to give kids information and let them make their own choices. <br /><br />So, instead of just telling your son "Never do [insert stimming behavior here]," maybe you could tell him: <br /><br />"It's important to know that if you do that in front of other kids your age, they might feel scared because they haven't seen people do that before. And if they're mean, they might make fun of you. But you'll always be allowed to stim in the house, and we will never make fun of you."<br /><br />Then he wouldn't be ignorant of the possible consequences of stimming in public. But if the urge is strong and/or he doesn't care what other kids think, he could still choose to do it without feeling like he was disobeying or disappointing his parents. Does that make sense?Zoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11415989880473044852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6247419696486725071.post-75457873729343682082011-04-17T04:11:17.698-07:002011-04-17T04:11:17.698-07:00Zoe, I hope you don't mind hearing from me aga...Zoe, I hope you don't mind hearing from me again. I am just so drawn to your blog. I want to help my son and be supportive of him. I never want to make him feel bad. How can I teach him how to stim properly, by that I mean to still "fit in" but also to still feel good. I'm so confused. You seem like you really have great insight and information. If you can give me any guidance I'd love it. <br /><br />Or tell me to leave you alone if I'm driving you nuts. Thanks.Maryannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03073949107186468147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6247419696486725071.post-68704390584798524812010-10-29T20:21:17.838-07:002010-10-29T20:21:17.838-07:00Wonderful post and enjoyable blog in general. I s...Wonderful post and enjoyable blog in general. I suggested that my son read your entry about the flow chart (great idea, b/t/w), and then we just kept reading. <br /><br />This entry really resonates, as his teachers have been working so hard to get him to stop stimming or doing the OCD behaviors that help reduce his anxiety, and that has made him even more anxious. It's a bit of a catch 22. We're still trying to find something acceptable that will help reduce the anxiety. He doesn't like to use stress balls, but perhaps now that he has read that you use them, he'll be more open to that option. <br /><br />Thanks for the insight! I hope to read more about your struggles and successes. I find it very helpful and I think he does too.EosMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12752181634879351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6247419696486725071.post-20434821649807999122010-08-09T15:05:11.931-07:002010-08-09T15:05:11.931-07:00Thanks for writing this Zoe... I feel like every l...Thanks for writing this Zoe... I feel like every little insight into how you see the world and the issues you face broadens MY understanding of the world. So thank you!! Eager for more. :)Oliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15961474765029705514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6247419696486725071.post-66518228261488527592010-08-09T01:15:12.525-07:002010-08-09T01:15:12.525-07:00Thanks for reading! I appreciate it.Thanks for reading! I appreciate it.Zoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11415989880473044852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6247419696486725071.post-5374533648655067822010-08-08T18:39:13.865-07:002010-08-08T18:39:13.865-07:00This is a really good blog post. Thank you for wri...This is a really good blog post. Thank you for writing it. I look forward to reading your future posts.Ari Ne'emanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11994339439474211203noreply@blogger.com